If you spent as
many years as I did in a parochial educational system (like me) then you were
programmed. Programmed to embrace a particular life-death-eternity-heaven-hell
paradigm. The people who taught me as a child didn’t make vague suggestions
about how things worked (when it came to all matters religious). No, they spoke
in absolutes. There were no options or alternatives. The other religions perhaps
weren’t wrong but we were right.
Shame about my
spiritually-bankrupt and eternally-lost non-Christian friends. Oh well, at
least I’m going to heaven. J
On some level,
we’ve all been programmed, manipulated, coerced and influenced into many of our
current beliefs. Our current world view. That’s not to say that the people in
our world have intentionally manipulated or coerced us but without doubt, they
have influenced us (for good or bad) nonetheless. It happens automatically,
constantly and often, unconsciously. It’s an unavoidable byproduct of being
around people we trust, respect and love. On some level, we’ve all been shaped
and influenced by others and, in turn, we will reciprocate.
Every day, for
good or bad, consciously or not, we will influence and be influenced.
If you are a
regular reader of my words then you have been influenced by me. In fact, that’s
one of my key objectives; to influence people towards their best lives. If you
expose yourself to my ideas, thoughts and ramblings on a regular basis then you
can’t help but be impacted in some way, big or small, by what you read here.
Whether that impact is a positive or a negative in your world, is for you to
judge. As I’ve said many times before, your job is not to accept what I say as
gospel but, rather, to consider it and see if it resonates with you. If you
consider it to be relevant and potentially valuable, then do something with it.
If not, ignore it and move on.
I’m just a guy
with a few ideas.
So, in the
middle of all this influence, the challenge for you and me is to discover what
we truly know beyond what we’ve been told, exposed to and coerced to accept as
non-negotiable fact. Like it or not, want it or not, people have lied to us.
Mislead us. Manipulated us. Some of us have been programmed not to ask
questions. Not to doubt. Not to challenge. Not to think for ourselves. Not to
consider an alternative philosophy.
The moment we
start to ask intelligent questions, to doubt (certain things) and to truly
think independently is the moment we begin to discover our authentic selves and
to learn our own truth. The “us” beyond
the influence, the programming and the expectations. It’s also the moment we
stop being an agent for someone else’s ideas, beliefs, thinking and rules.
The older I
get, the less I know. Or so it seems. These days, I’m wrong so often that I
always keep a fresh supply of humble pie in the fridge.
I don’t know
about you, but there have been times in my life when I accepted certain things
simply because it was the path of least resistance and I didn’t want to deal
with the potential consequences of being the one to step out of line. And there
were times when I believed things because those beliefs made me comfortable.
They suited me. I wore them like old ill-fitting clothes. I wanted them to be
true so much that I wouldn’t consider listening to anyone who might challenge
my thinking or my non-negotiable beliefs. I now know that attitude was all
about my fear.
Sometimes, the
personal-growth journey is all about learning.
Sometimes it’s
about unlearning.
Let me know
what you think –
Til’ next time…