moaners! &%$#

This past weekend I had some time with myself (no, not in the biblical sense) but had some time to reflect and muse over some of the things I won’t miss when my career at the JCC ends in about 3 weeks. One of the things I won’t miss is the very small percentage of the colleagues that continue to moan about life’s circumstances. Quite frankly they are using too much of my air!

I sat in a meeting not too long ago where I had to use every bit of self control to not jump on the desk and scream at these people to just stop- Stop, Stop, Stop…the frigging moaning!

These folks don’t understand that their moans are not heard! That moaning and self pity does not serve them in any positive way. That constant moaning is tiresome, it is disempowering and frankly it is very unattractive, because it is spilling over with self pity. And more importantly just pisses me off and gives me an eye tick!

When I was heavily into traveling the oceans lecturing on physical fitness, one of the first things I learned and one of the primary lessons taught to us was the need for the individual to accept personal responsibility. If you talk to the police they will tell you (and rightly so) that your personal security is first and foremost your own responsibility. It is not theirs. They will do their utmost to prevent crimes against the person and they we be diligent in trying to stop a crime in progress and solve crimes and prosecute criminals post assault. But the fact still remains that your security always was, always is and always will be your problem.

Personally, I have extended that lesson of self-defense against an assailant on the street to self-defense against the self (defending yourself against your own shadows, addictions and ignorance) I find myself evangelizing the self same message.

Your personal security is your responsibility. It is not the responsibility of the judiciary.

Your health is your responsibility; it is not the charge of the medical fraternity.(They are only really there to mend and heal what is already broken and worn)

Your welfare is your responsibility. It is not the liability of the state, even if you think it is, even if you wish it was. Stop trying to shame some smarmy politician into admitting his duck-pond guilt and instead look in the mirror; shame yourself, be guilty that you are not in charge of your own life.

Your employment (and how much money you earn) it determined by you, if your job is below you and the wages poor you are accountable. You and you alone. By studying and increasing skills anyone can make them selves more valuable, more recession proof in the work place. Your education is also your responsibility, in the public libraries you have access to every book ever written, by the greatest representatives of our species. They are all free. If you are under educated you will not have to look far if you want some one to blame. Your pension is definitely your responsibility, you have a whole life time to prepare for your retirement, and if you fail to prepare then you should be prepared to fail – and don’t point the finger at anyone other than the man in the mirror.

Ultimately your life is your responsibility. Even God helps only those that help themselves. And the moment you surrender that responsibility to a third of fourth party you “disempower” yourself, and become obsolete and impotent.

How many times have you heard the pathetic and the weedy and the wan attack the police for not policing them or the government for not governing them or the doctors and nurses for not caring. Who the f**k wants to be governed, why would you want to be policed by some one else and, let me tell you, doctors will be far more inspired to care for you when they can see that you have bothered to care for yourself.

If you are not a self sovereign, if you don’t lead your self, you become anybody’s “Bi**h”, you become everybody’s lackey and like a carriage without a directing passenger you will be driven and dragged in the direction of the strongest forces, but they will not be the forces of your own will, and you will be taken in every direction, but it will not be a direction of choice.

Your life is not their responsibility it is yours. To be truly safe you must ‘self’ police. For perpetually good life policies, you must ‘self’ govern; look after the body politic. And to be in good health…heal thy self.

This is exciting! This is very exciting.

When you stop blaming and claiming and shaming and take charge of your self, when you empower your self and take responsibility for your own bones you become one very powerful, one very rare and one very attractive individual, and you permission your self to access a brave and limitless existence.

You are great! You are your own police. You are your own medicine. You employ and govern yourself. You are your own Alpha and you are your own Omega. You are your only enemy, you are you only friend.

So please….stop the “F*ng” moaning about who is letting you down and stop letting yourself down. You’ll be surprised that when you are determined to wholly take responsibility for your existence, (insert the deity of your choice), or the universe will proffer you the power to own and determine that existence.

Til next time…